Understand why he acts this way — instantly.
A psychology-based relationship diagnosis + communication coach built for women.
Stop overthinking, craft calm replies, and get a clear next step.
Evidence-based frameworks: Attachment · CBT/DBT · Gottman · Emotion regulation
Not a neutral chatbot — a female-first relationship coach
When you're refreshing the chat, spiraling, and thinking “is he losing interest?”, decodeyou doesn't respond with a vague “maybe he's busy.”<br/>It makes the situation clear: what his behavior may mean, what triggers you, and what to do next.
Feel understood (not judged)
Validate emotions first, then turn them into an actionable next step.
Relationship diagnosis
Attachment dynamics, triggers, pursue/withdraw cycle, and core conflict patterns.
Texting coach (coming soon)
Goal-based scripts: calm, clear, boundaried — without sounding needy.
Psychology assessments (coming soon)
Attachment / boundaries / conflict style assessments to build your relationship map.
Why decodeyou works (and why generic AI often doesn't)
No manipulation, no “PUA tricks,” no cold neutrality. Just evidence-based frameworks + emotional regulation — designed for women navigating uncertainty.
3 steps from spiraling to clarity
Paste your real situation — get structured analysis, a plan, and copy-ready replies.
Describe what happened
Timeline + their behavior + your feelings (the more real, the better).
Get a relationship diagnosis
Behavior meaning, motives, your triggers, pursue/withdraw cycle, conflict pattern.
Pick a reply style
Gentle / assertive / high-boundary — aligned with your goal.
Regulate & act
CBT/DBT grounding + a next-24h plan to stop overthinking.
3 core features (shipping iteratively)
Relationship diagnosis + communication coaching + psychology assessments — to help you feel more secure in love.
AI relationship analysis
Interpret his behavior, infer motives, identify your triggers, and map the cycle.
Texting coach (coming soon)
Scripts that communicate needs without sounding needy — calm and boundaried.
Psychology assessments (coming soon)
Attachment / boundaries / conflict style — build your personal relationship map.
Safety assessment
Green/yellow/red signals to help you judge if the relationship is safe.
Emotion regulation (CBT/DBT)
Grounding + self-validation to move from 10/10 anxiety to calm clarity.
Stop overthinking
Turn spirals into evidence → interpretation → action. Stop breaking down over small cues.
Turn anxiety into a clear plan
You get structured insight + next steps — not vague comfort.
3 Reply styles: gentle / assertive / high-boundary
Reply styles: gentle / assertive / high-boundary
4 Frameworks: Attachment + CBT/DBT + Gottman + emotion regulation
Frameworks: Attachment + CBT/DBT + Gottman + emotion regulation
1 Next step: what to say and do today
Next step: what to say and do today
These are the moments you need clarity most
“Why is he pulling away?” “Should I text him again?” “How to stop overthinking?” “How to communicate without sounding needy?”
We separate facts from attachment triggers. Regulate first, then send one low-pressure message to confirm where things stand.
Case 01, He replies slowly — I'm losing it
Case 01
He replies slowly — I'm losing it
We identify the pursue/withdraw cycle: the more you chase, the more he retreats. The plan: stop flooding and set a clear invitation + boundary.
Case 02, Hot & cold / push-pull
Case 02
Hot & cold / push-pull
We distinguish “cooling down” from stonewalling. Give space while setting a communication window and a minimum standard.
Case 03, Silence after an argument
Case 03
Silence after an argument
We turn your need into “observation + feeling + request” — calm, clear, and respectful. Soft tone, firm clarity.
Case 04, I want to express needs without sounding needy
Case 04
I want to express needs without sounding needy
Strategy depends on your goal: move the connection forward with a clear invite, or protect your self-respect with a deadline and boundary.
Case 05, Should I text him first again?
Case 05
Should I text him first again?
We use a green/yellow/red check. Control, coercion, threats, and isolation are priority red flags — safety first, always.
Case 06, Is this relationship safe?
Case 06
Is this relationship safe?
Early access: Texting Coach & Psychology Assessments
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FAQ — the questions you keep googling
Female-first + psychology-based answers, plus copy-ready communication scripts.
Scroll back to the top and click Try decode with your real situation.
Stop spiraling. Get clarity in minutes.
Paste your situation and get psychology-based analysis, calm reply scripts, and an actionable plan.